Oscar-winning actress Halle Berry shared candid insights about her approach to intimacy during a February 24 appearance on the Sex With Emily podcast, emphasizing her decision to no longer fake orgasms. Berry explained that prioritizing genuine pleasure benefits both partners, marking a change in how she views sexual experiences.
She said,
“We had to get there so that he felt good about bringing us to orgasm,”
Berry, 59, explained.
“We had to say that we did it so that he would feel good about himself. Because what is that doing? That’s putting his needs before our own. And now I don’t do that anymore.”
Berry highlighted the importance of mutual satisfaction, stating,
“I’m like, ‘No, I come first like you come first to you.’ We both deserve to have this be a mutually enjoyable experience, so we both can roll over and go to sleep because we feel good — not one snoring and the other one looking at the ceiling, going, ‘What the hell?’”
Berry Opens Up About Her Relationship With Van Hunt
The actress has been open about her relationship with fiancé Van Hunt, confirming their engagement during a recent appearance on The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon. In a September 2024 interview with Marie Claire, Berry described their connection as unique in her life experience.
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It was the first time I was madly in love before I had sex. That has never happened to me, ever,”
she said.
“Talk about one of those life-changing, beautiful experiences. It was magical, just magical.”
Berry and Hunt, 55, began dating in 2020 during the COVID-19 pandemic. Hunt, a singer known for Seconds of Pleasure, publicly confirmed their romance by sharing a photo of Berry kissing his cheek on Instagram that summer. The couple’s steady relationship continues to grow, with Berry attributing their bond in part to intentional mindset changes.
Manifesting a Lasting Partnership After Past Heartbreak
Reflecting on her previous marriages to David Justice, Eric Benét, and Olivier Martinez, Berry talked about the lessons learned from past relationships. During an interview on Today earlier this month, she explained how shifting her focus from negativity to intentional desire helped her attract the right partner.
Berry said,
“Having gone through three divorces, I finally knew what wasn’t working, and I realized I was always saying to the universe what I didn’t want — what I didn’t want,”
adding,
“So guess what I did? I manifested what I didn’t want. So, I really had to change my thinking, and instead of thinking of what I didn’t want, I had to get intentional with what I did want.”
She described becoming detailed about her ideal partner’s qualities:
“What was my perfect partner? What would he be like, feel like? What walk of life would he have come from? Who would he be? How would he treat me? I got very granular with it, and then he showed up. It was the perfect match for me.”
Contentment With Family and Personal Growth
Berry shares two children—daughter Nahla, 17, with ex-boyfriend Gabriel Aubry, and son Maceo, 11, with Olivier Martinez. She acknowledged that even without her relationship with Hunt, she would have been content focusing on her family.
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If it didn’t come, I would have been good just to raise my kids,”
Berry admitted.
“After three divorces, you kind of go, ‘I’m just going to be alone,’ and I was ready to do that. I was done. I knew that if the right person didn’t show up for me, I’d be better off going at it alone. But this is the power of manifestation. We can manifest any reality we want.”
The Impact of Berry’s Honesty on Discussions Around Intimacy
Halle Berry’s decision to speak openly about her sex life and emotional experiences challenges norms surrounding intimacy, especially concerning honesty between partners. By rejecting the idea of faking pleasure, she advocates for mutual respect and communication in relationships.
Her reflections on manifesting a healthy partnership after multiple divorces may inspire others to reconsider how mindset influences relationship outcomes. Berry’s openness about her personal growth and relationship with Van Hunt offers insight into embracing authenticity both emotionally and physically.
